When you fully understand
Monday, August 05, 2019
When you fully understand that.
people who are unsecured tend to dump their negativity upon others,
that their issues are often theirs only and not a reflection of you,
there is no need to verbally refute what they say,
just nod and say "Thank you for letting me know how you feel. I will take note of it. I am always ready to reach a better understanding with you"
If they persist on raising negative issues, just reflect back to them what they said to show that you fully understand their issue, try to put it in a positive light by saying just a few words, and then change the subject to something more positive.
If they still persist or are otherwise unsatisfied with your response. Ask several questions about what they said. When it's certain that you you fully understand what they said, then say "Good, I just need some time to consider it, but now that we're together, can I ask you what you think about (some topic of common interest)"